Your 10 may be impossible to imagine from your 8
Here's the paradox.
You're probably very good at imagining possibilities. It's part of what got you here.
But imagination doesn't create from nothing. It builds with the raw material of your experience, pieces of what you already know, remember and have lived through.
That means your current idea of a 10 is built with the raw material of your 8.
Knowing something could be different isn't the same as experiencing that it can be different.
If letting go feels risky, you hold on, even when you know you don't need to control everything.
If disappointing someone feels bad, you adapt, even when you know you don't need everyone's approval.
If slowing down feels like losing momentum, you keep pushing, even when you know the pace isn't sustainable.
Insight can show you another possibility. Experiencing is what makes it feel real.
Sometimes that new experience doesn't require anything you haven't already lived. Just a new combination of raw material you already have. A way of responding that was always possible, just never assembled and lived through before.
Either way, nothing changes until it's been felt, not just understood. Once you experience it, feel it play out, notice it doesn't cost what you expected, you start to trust it. Only then does it become something you'd reach for again. A new go-to, not just a new idea.
And once you experience something differently, you have something you didn't have before: new raw material. For how you see yourself. For what feels possible. For what you can imagine next.
That's why I don't believe your 10 is simply a better version of your 8. It may contain possibilities you can't construct yet, because you haven't lived the raw material for them yet.
New experience creates new raw material. New raw material creates new possibilities. That's where change begins.
So, what's your 10?
You don't need to know the answer. In fact, that's part of the point.
Maybe there's something you want to build. Something you want to change. A responsibility you want to carry differently. Or simply a sense that there's more available to you than what you can currently see.
That's where our work can begin.
“Dimas helped the discovery of my ‘true self’ and a ‘vision of me’ I had not had the courage to see.”
—NADINE ZAMIRA SYARIEF | SENIOR VICE PRESIDENT SUSTAINABILITY DANANTARA INDONESIA